Losing a parent, child, or someone you love is life-changing, especially those who have gone through this life journey with you. Losing someone unexpectedly will knock the wind right out of you. It’s numbing. I was talking to a friend about life…and loss. He started talking about people who battle addiction and their desire to be sober again. He said, “their goal is to win the day.” When you look through their life lens, it makes so much sense. Grievers are no different.
Think about it.
For those who are in rehab, their goal is to make it through the day without any setbacks. I realize the same goes for those who are grieving or heartbroken. It doesn’t matter how many small groups or meetings you attend each week, there is something potentially lurking that can set you back. Anything can take you there: a photo, a song, a siren, a familiar face, a holiday, hospital machine sounds, or something as simple as driving down the road and passing a restaurant sign (Yes, this happened).
Making it through the day without a meltdown, getting out of bed, allowing the sun to kiss your face, to eat, to LIVE again…or whatever the case may be…it is hard. But thank you God for each new day and new beginning.
It’s 102 days later and I can confidently say I have reached a point where I’m crawling. Which, objectively, is an improvement. Maybe 102 days later I’ll be walking.—Patton Oswalt
I may have a smile on my face. I may even laugh at a funny joke, but make no mistake about it…it hurts. Like hell. Every. Single. Day. The existence of GOD and His peace that flows through me is the reason that I can push past tears, clean up my racoon eyes, settle emotions, and have the ability to even brush my teeth.
I’ll tell anyone going through this process…cry if you must. Grieve. Let it ALL out. The good, the bad, and the ugly. There are NO RULES! Just win the day. Even if you have moments that overwhelm you, you can and will overcome. We have to take baby steps and live life one…moment…at a time.
Focus on the right now, and if you live to see another day—that’s proof that you WON!