The journey of grief is so unpredictable, because you never know when it will hit you. Then just like that…

It’s easy for people to say they will be there for you, but when you need them most, they aren’t there. Or…they don’t know how to be. I don’t think people get it until it happens to them. I was there, and I absolutely didn’t. Then it happened.

To the One Missing Their Mom

There’s nothing like your Mom. NOTHING. You can’t call her on the phone, talk to her about your random day, hear her voice, cry on her shoulder, laugh at something silly, or just be YOU. She’s the one who gets (got) you, because you are (were) the one she gave birth to. You even kept her up at night with late-night feedings, while she was the one who wiped your surprised-packed diapers. If they were the cloth kind, then you know it was pure love.

To the One Grieving a Loved One or Feeling Alone

We are all going through our own ish. The question is…how do you make your way through that dark place when you feel completely alone? Yes, you believe in God and know that God is real, but there’s the BUT. The “but” that everyone just won’t understand — and the unanswered questions. You still feel emptiness and a gaping hole. You can have a spouse, children, besties, friends, associates, a dog, a cat, and if you’re lucky, you have family that is still present on this side. But what if you don’t? And if you do have all of these things — you can still FEEL emptiness. So….what do you do? You cry. You pray. You give yourself permission to feel. Then, wipe your face and keep going, keep smiling, keep pressing — because that’s all you got on this life journey. You do the BEST you can to LIVE, because you don’t know when grief will strike again.

To the Grieving

Just know that I see you. I feel you. I cry too. A lot. It hurts. The unknown. Not having all of the answers. Trying to accept that you never will. All of it. I wish I had a definite answer to ease the pain, the heartbreak, to fill that space (not replace it) — even for myself. I pray that you can experience the Presence of our Creator like never before — and every single time you feel that void, I pray you will also feel the nudge, the warmth, the comfort, the peace that surpasses all understanding…and know the Source.

God be with all of the grieving during this holiday season…and every day after.

Wonderful Counselor

Mighty God

Everlasting Father

Prince of Peace

GOD WITH US

This season isn’t joyous for all, those facing loss, loneliness, economic anxiety, and mental illness. If you think you could use help, please seek it. Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (TALK) or text CONNECT to the Crisis Text Line at 741741.

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